Tuesday Post: Uncertainty

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Happy Tuesday!

Every Tuesday I'd like to offer strategies for the week ahead and a thought to fuel your action.

Stress is not to be avoided; it’s to be embraced.

Peace and tranquility feel great, so naturally, we chase them.

We design our lives around ease, aiming to sidestep discomfort at every turn. Yet uncertainty doesn’t care about our desires. It arrives unannounced, relentless, and demanding we rise or fall.

Our strength for handling uncertainty doesn’t come from avoiding stress—it comes from engaging with it willingly and intentionally.

I learned this truth in the worst place: the front seat of my car.

It was early—too early. I sat in silence, parked outside the office I’d rented just a year earlier with big dreams and bigger ambitions. Over the last three weeks, 60% of my team, including the head of technology, had walked out. For a tech startup founder who couldn’t code, this was a disaster, a quiet implosion. My chest tightened. My palms were clammy, gripping the wheel. I didn’t want to face what waited behind that office door.

I wanted comfort. Instead, I had uncertainty. And I broke.

It wasn’t a loud break or a dramatic one. But sitting there in that silence, I finally confronted a truth I had avoided: this moment—this overwhelming uncertainty—was exactly what I needed.

Until that morning, I had chased comfort and avoided conflict, tried to please everyone, terrified of failure. And now, stuck in the suffocating air of my car, I finally understood what stress could do. It wasn’t breaking me down. It was breaking me open, making space for a new version of myself—a stronger, clearer, more capable one.

Without stress, I wouldn’t have grown. Without discomfort, I wouldn’t have moved. The life I wanted was never going to be found hiding from challenges. It could only be discovered by embracing them head-on.

We all want to avoid stress, and for good reason. It hurts as leg day at the gym hurts. Yet every squat and every step we push beyond comfort builds muscle. Our mind works exactly the same way. Stress is uncomfortable—but necessary. It’s how we build mental strength to face uncertainty, how we prepare to navigate life’s endless unknowns.

Our minds haven’t yet caught up with the fact that most modern uncertainty is rarely life-threatening. Our ancestors faced genuine mortal danger—one wrong move meant death. Our brains today react with the same intensity to much smaller, modern uncertainties. It’s as if we still believe horseback is the fastest transportation, even while holding the keys to a car.

Evolutionary instincts also push us to fear standing out.

Historically, standing apart from the group was dangerous.

Now, it’s a superpower. Today, differentiation defines us and moves us forward, yet our internal wiring still nudges us toward conformity. It’s like hoping chocolate will help us lose weight—we want progress without discomfort, and it simply doesn’t happen that way.

We need a clear, meaningful goal—a mental anchor to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. When things get hard, we need something to cling to. Like Google Maps in traffic, knowing our destination helps us tolerate the delays, frustrations, and reroutes.

When uncertainty becomes overwhelming, our greatest weapon is curiosity. Anxiety thrives when we’re stuck in our own narratives. Curiosity is like aspirin—it shifts our focus outward, encourages questions, and grounds us in reality instead of the imagined catastrophes we conjure.

Self-awareness and mindfulness are powerful tools for navigating uncertainty. But in the daily grind, they’re easily neglected, like tools forgotten in a dusty garage.

It’s time to step into that garage, flick on the lights, and dust off those tools.

The real question, though, isn’t if we should. It’s this: Once you’ve cleaned off these tools, what will you build?

The best is ahead!

-Matt